In Luke’s Gospel, Mary Magdalene is back at Jesus’s tomb to find it to be empty. Here comes the gardener who is Jesus. When Mary runs up to Jesus to hug Him, Jesus says, “Do not hold on to me.” Are you a person to hold onto the past? Consistently remembering or talking about life, “Back in the good old days.”
Life isn’t static. It always in motion with you or without you. Sometimes people; grow, move, graduate, lose a job, a death, marriage, divorce, get a job, cancer, TBI, or a heart attack. I remember being a star athlete 13 years ago and the other day I was talking about it with my father. I had a faraway look in my eyes and a longing in my voice talking about the past. I remember thinking do I seriously believe my best years are behind me. How much energy and time people spend on wishing things could only be how they used to be in the past?
If you need to celebrate, then celebrate, if you need to remember how great it was when he or she was alive, then remember those times, if you need to grieve, then grieve. If you need to apologize, make amends, or make peace; then do it and then move on.
There is a certain kind of despair that sets in when we think life was better in the past. We are not living life fully present. When we are still holding figuratively onto a person or idea, we are not free to embrace today. We do not even have a guaranteed tomorrow. You cannot change how it was yesterday and you have no guarantees for tomorrow. All we have is today!
I want to talk to the future or today’s parent(s), if you live in the fantasy that it will get done or meet that person tomorrow. You will wake and it will not be tomorrow it will be yesterday. You will have missed it or her or him. The answer is not to freeze time but to be fully present in the here and now and that you do not miss a thing in this day. Then you can let your sons or daughters go and let them be who they are in this world because you have no regrets. You have been there the whole time.
Are you still holding on? Let go and receive a new spirit. May you accept, grieve, or celebrate the past for what it is and do all these things in good bearings. Accept from God a new spirit for the here, now, and today.