As I was meeting with my therapist today, yeah that is right I see a therapist, so what, you are messed up if you don’t see one, we talked about about being real and raw in my posts about my TBI. In other words, I need to stop trying to sound academic. I need to bear my soul to my audience about how bad having this injury really is. I choose to give you a glimpse of my life. I hope you have read an article that was written about me one year after my accident (http://www.chadfrancour.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/Eagle-Herald-Newspaper-Article-one-year-after-accident.pdf). This article gives a good idea of my past and what was lost. Having a traumatic brain injury FUCKING SUCKS! There is no simple way to say it. I could pussyfoot around and give some bullshit answer that is politically and academically sound but this time I am going to be naked giving you a glimpse into my life.
I have physical, cognitive, and social disabilities that will always be with me. I will never be the way I was before the accident. Is that a bad thing? In some sense, yes, I was going to have a meaningful and prosperous life but on the other hand no. I was like any other 16-year-old doing crazy things and living life. I had that stripped away and a part of me died that day.
If we look at life objectively instead of subjectively we can have a more balanced view of life. I more than likely could look at my life objectively but that is not coinciding with my other people in my life. I am who I am-accept me for me. If you cannot accept me for me, then forget you!
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Well said. Gives us a look inside your world. You are the strongest person I know.
Thanks Lynn, it really boils down to isolation and depression. Why am I cast aside by society? To die alone?
You need to focus on what you have and what you can do. You’ve accomplished so much with tenacity and hard work. If we had listened to doctors you would not be able to feed and dress yourself. They would never had predicted you would be walking and working a job. You set high expectations for yourself. Once you look for good in others they will see the good in you.
I don’t understand what you mean. Of course I look for the good in people.